My Soul Mate’s Wedding

13 going on 30

My best friend’s wedding

Easy A

When Harry met Sally

Griffin and Phoenix

A lot like Love

Bride’s war

The Good Guy

No String Attached

Friends with Benefits

You name it!

Semua film diatas bercerita tentang sahabat yang akhirnya menjadi kekasih, bahkan wanita yang tadinya akan menikah dengan pria lain ternyata menjelang detik-detik pernikahannya tiba-tiba tersadar jika yang dia cintai ternyata adalah sahabatnya. Atau wanita yang terpisah lama dengan sahabat masa kecilnya, tiba-tiba sadar bahwa dia mencintai sahabatnya tepat sebelum si pria menikah. The moral story is woman and man can’t be a friend, because sooner or later one of them will ruin their friendship with the stupid thing called love.

Jika dalam film-film tersebut di atas, endingnya selalu berakhir bahagia, entah  sang pria harus berlari menembus kemacetan (biasanya setting-nya di New York) untuk mencegah sahabatnya menikah dengan pria lain, atau dengan noraknya si pria menari bersama ratusan orang di stasiun kereta (masih di New York) diiringi dengan lagu kesukaan si wanita lalu berlutut melamar sang sahabat. Atau sang wanita yang secara impulsive naik taksi dari New York ke New Jersey hanya untuk menyelinap ke kamar sang sahabat, mencurahkan isi hatinya dan sang wanita membuat satu permohonan agar waktu dapat diulang sehingga sahabatnya tidak menikah dengan wanita lain. Dan dengan bantuan magic sparkle, harapan wanita tersebut terkabul dan voilaa… a happy ending ala Hollywood.

Tapi bagaimana jika kejadian tersebut terjadi di dunia nyata, tanpa ada naskah, tanpa ada sutradara dan kru-kru lain yang telah menyiapkan “the-happy-ending’ untuk para aktornya? Love rules only for the Hollywood actors. Terlebih lagi jika tangan dingin Gary Marshall turut campur (tidak percaya? Well, silakan nonton Valentine’s day, New year’s Eve).

Well, apa yang terjadi seandainya Gary Marshall berdiri tepat disampingku ketika aku memutuskan untuk menelepon  pria, eh sahabatku, just to say that I miss him a lot, and I just decided to tell him that I love him (sorry kalau terdengar agak-agak cheesy), tapi sebelum aku selesai berkata “halo” dia terlebih dahulu mengejutkanku dengan berita “dia-akan-segera-menikah-empat-bulan-lagi”nya. Mungkin sang sutradara akan menulis cerita, aku, yang secara impulsive mendatangi si pria untuk mencegahnya menikah dengan wanita lain seperti di film-film romantic comedy ala Hollywood yang pernah aku tonton, mungkin aku akan seperti Julia Roberts di film My Best Friend’s Wedding atau seperti Jennifer Garner di 13 going on 30-nya.

But it’s life,

Well, my life. I have to face the reality, I’m not Julia Roberts, neither Jennifer Garner. And I don't have the right to sabotage his happiness, to know that he is happy is enough for me. It's not fair to push to win him over. He deserves to be happy, with or without me.

Well, I’m just an ordinary girl, who falls in love with “the-best-friend-who-is-going-to-marry-soon”,

Sometimes I don’t have the happy ending, but whatever it is. I’ll keep moving on.

Yeah, shit happens in my life, but I’ll be okay. Well, who knows, i'll get my own happy ending, mungkin kisahku akan berakhir seperti Julia Roberts yang akhirnya menemukan pria baru (well, di filmnya sih si Rupert Everett ini, sahabat gay yang akhirnya end up with Julia). 

Whatever it is, I'll find my own serendipity.

P.S.

I really, really wish that you, my friend,  would have a good life.

I love you,

Ever Wish Your Boss Was Dead) (Horrible Boss) *the Movie (2011)

Ringkasan Cerita FILM HORRIBLE BOSSES (2011) :

Punya Bos yang menyebalkan? Tidak akan menaikkan pangkat kita? Terlalu bernafsu tinggi? dan lain sebagainya akan membuat kita tidak akan merasa betah dan ingin keluar dari kerjaan kita. Atau mencari opsi lain untuk memecahkan masalah ini.

3 orang yang mengalami permasalahan ini adalah Dale, Kurt dan Nick memiliki masalah dengan bos mereka masing-masing. Mereka tidak tahan lagi kerja dengan posisi yang bos mereka menjengkelkan seperti itu dan membuat mereka tidak betah. Mencoba keluar dari pekerjaan bisa membuat mereka stress karena sulit untuk mencari pekerjaan lain, lalu apa yang mereka harus lakukan?

Membunuh boss mereka satu persatu agar jabatan mereka naik atau tidak bertemu dengan mungkin menjadi jalan pintas memecahkan masalah mereka. Maka dari itu mereka bertiga sepakat untuk menyewa pembunuh bayaran untuk dapat memecahkan masalah mereka tersebut. Akhirnya mereka menemukan Motherfucker Jones  yaitu pembunuh bayaran. Berhasilkah mereka membunuh bos-bos menyebalkan itu? 

Pernah mengalami kejadian seperti di film komedi diatas?

Saya yakin semua pasti pernah kesal dengan atasan, entah itu atasan langsung maupun atasan tidak langsung.

Entah atasan yang selalu bikin kita pulang terlambat, yang selalu mengomel hingga atasan yang iri terhadap bawahan.

Berada dalam posisi yang lebih tinggi, tidak menutup kemungkinan atasan merasa iri terhadap bawahan. Dalam banyak kasus kenalan saya (bahkan saya sendiri), seringkali kami berada dalam posisi yang sulit dan tidak menyenangkan dalam menghadapi atasan yang selalu mengomel atau bahkan mencampuri urusan pribadimu. 

Namun demikian, bukan berarti kami harus menyewa jasa profesional untuk membalaskan dendam kami. Bagi saya pribadi (yang kebetulan terlahir dengan watak cuek naujubillah), berbagai karakter atasan sebaiknya dengan dihadapi dengan gaya classy dan elegan. Jika kau diomeli hanya karena dia iri karena si tampan dari divisi IT lagi pdkt denganmu (sementara dia masih lajang), pasang saja tampang datar (toh, dia tidak akan mengomelimu sehari semalam). 

Jangan pernah terpancing, dan akhirnya membalas secara frontal, tapi bukan berarti kau aktif menggosipi dia. Lebih baik, yakinkan saja dirimu, bahwa dia yang bermasalah, bukan kau. Dan selama urusan pekerjaan tetap kau selesaikan secara profesional, abaikan saja atasan yang menyebalkan itu. 

Keep up the good work, don't give a shit with anything else.

(Not-so) My Prince Charming

"Once Upon a times..."

"and the Prince kiss his bride, 
and they live happily ever after"




Well, Okay
Let's get back to the real life,
wake up!!!


To be honest, 
Since I was kid,
I always dream that one day,
my life would be like those bedtime stories 
Having my own fairy Godmother 
who supplied the fancy and sequined dress for me,
and then meeting my prince charming


But the thing is,
those stories is always be a story
never be real,
If you want to get the fancy dress
then you have to work really hard


He may not treat you like Cinderella
He may not have the white and fast horse
He may not have the big castle as well

Then, the question is,
How to know that he's the prince Charming?
well, there's no answer for this question.
Maybe, you think you've met him
He's nice, calm, cute
He's just the man of your dream.
But if he doesn't treat you the way you should be treated
Well, okay... 
You're not a Queen Rania, but still
You should be treated like a princess
He should put his best efforts to be with you
If he act differently,
Then he's not the one.
That's simple
But as long as he loves you, 
and has no fear to admit it
Then, 
he's your Prince Charming

Life: a tragedy or a comedy

There's always two sides of each story.

Familiar with that quotes?
Well, That's what happens in life.
Sometimes, we're happy. But on the other side, we're sad.
We fall in love, but we can fall out of love too.
Life is made from the choice we make.
We can choose to be happy or sad.
You can fall in love or fall out of love either.
Everything may happens in life,
the thing that matters is how you deal with that.


So, you got Tumor, Cancer, Heartbroken, Jobless, Broke or anything
or your life is awfully desperately poor?
It's your choice,
you can put all the drama and cry your self to sleep
Or,
you can stand still, head up and enjoy every second of your life happily.


It's life, with its ups and downs
So you got Tumor, Cancer, heartbroken, Jobless, Broke or anything.
Look down, then you'll see
You may be luckier that someone out there.

There are so many things in life that you can’t control:
earthquakes, war, deaths.
It’s important to remember the things you can control,
things like love and forgiveness


Never give up hope,
Take the leap of faith
Always put the VIP party to your life.
And enjoy while it lasts
Life is Beautiful 

La Vita est Belle
Dolce Vita

My Happiness Starts With Me

Ladies, if someone told you that you need to be settled down to be happy. Then, I'll tell you this: that's wrong!
You can be alone and happy and not feeling any lonely.

Well i'm single, I got my own.
But I'm not feeling desperately lonely.
Last night i went out for my routine getaway.


I decided to watch movie, 
I only had a romantic comedy, a drama, an action and a horror movies as the option.
then I choose to watch "New Year's Eve".


In a theater, i saw couples everyone.
You know, watching a romantic comedy with your lover couldn't be any more romantic.
But I stood there, alone
Feeling like shit? 
Hell no, 
Why should I?

I realized that I have two option,
To feel sad and lonely
Or to sit back, relax and enjoy the movie.


I choose the second option,
and I laugh insanely during the movie.
Guess what?
Laughing and enjoying my life is kind of attractive.
Because right after the movie ended,
a guy just flirted at me.
He smiled, then started a conversation.
He offered me a coffee, but unfortunately it's getting late.

Ladies, what should you learn from my story is,
being single doesn't mean you can't be happy.
Because happiness starts with you.
Single and in a relationship are just a titles.
Your heart determines your true relationship status.


I agree with Christopher McCandles (Into the Wild, the movie)
"Happiness only real when shared."
But you have to be happy with yourself first,
then you can share your happiness with others.
You know what? happiness is sort of contagious.
You've got to provide happiness for yourself first 
and then I bet other people want to join your party.


Remember Ladies,
A Happily ever after doesn't start with "I do.."
It starts with YOU.

Truth or Dare: try harder or someone else will

Man: "Let's play truth or dare"

Woman: "I dare you to love me"

Man: "that's not a dare, that;s the Truth"

Dear Ladies,

Have you ever dreamed to have such conversation with your crush, or with the one you love?

If you had, then welcome to the club.

you know, it's sucks when you have to keep questioning whether he's into you or not.

feels like counting the button, he loves me, he loves me not.

Ladies, if only we can play such game and get the answer that we have been waiting for too long.

But, not every woman has the guts to ask that question,

Then what should we do?

Well, Don't wait for love. When the time is right, let it come by itself, shows you that it does exist and worth the wait.

But again,

what about if you had been waiting for too long and he said no words but you find he's about to drag his feet away?

No worry,

I will keep telling this,

If he’s not that into you, then you have move on.

If you’re not important for him then don’t put him as the VIP person for you.

Run for your life, Ladies...

It will be hurt at first a little bit, but you’re so over it.

Sooner or later

If he doesn’t put you at the first place, then he doesn’t worth the wait.

If he wants you,

He has to try harder,

Or someone else will

Value yourself. refuse to be Anyone's dirty little secret

Case 1:
I have been dating a man for some time now. I'm in love with him but he still dates other woman. when we spend time together, he's so nice and loving, but when we're apart it seems like he doesn't care.


Case 2:
Finally, meeting the man of my dream and then...
meeting his beautiful wife.


Ladies, 
have you been in those situation before? or is it happening to you right now?
well, you're not alone dear...
It happens to every woman I know, well...It happens to me as well.
First, I thought i've met the one but then I found out that he's married already. Sucks? hell yeah...
Then, I'm meeting someone and I'm kinda in love with him. But, again, he's still dating his girlfriend.
frustated, confused? For sure,
But I get over it now.
I have to, for the sake of my self.

I refuse to be anyone's dirty little, why? because I'm too fabulous to be anyone's "second choice-last minute-take her for granted-old standby" woman. I'm too great so I should be the "first-place" woman. If he wants me, then he must act.

I refuse to be frustated and confused and being in a crossroad with any man. That's why, If he's still dating with other woman, then I also go seeing other man. 

And the most important thing is, if he shows that I'm no important to him then I also show him that he's no important to me. In summary, I make myself less available to him and date other people. I don't say "yes" that easily whenever if he asked me out to hang out. it's not about being play hard to get but I really want to enjoy my life by refusing to waste my time with the man who doesn't deserve me.
We have a life to live, right ladies?
And yeah...
Because I'm too fabulous for them :)