Value yourself. refuse to be Anyone's dirty little secret

Case 1:
I have been dating a man for some time now. I'm in love with him but he still dates other woman. when we spend time together, he's so nice and loving, but when we're apart it seems like he doesn't care.


Case 2:
Finally, meeting the man of my dream and then...
meeting his beautiful wife.


Ladies, 
have you been in those situation before? or is it happening to you right now?
well, you're not alone dear...
It happens to every woman I know, well...It happens to me as well.
First, I thought i've met the one but then I found out that he's married already. Sucks? hell yeah...
Then, I'm meeting someone and I'm kinda in love with him. But, again, he's still dating his girlfriend.
frustated, confused? For sure,
But I get over it now.
I have to, for the sake of my self.

I refuse to be anyone's dirty little, why? because I'm too fabulous to be anyone's "second choice-last minute-take her for granted-old standby" woman. I'm too great so I should be the "first-place" woman. If he wants me, then he must act.

I refuse to be frustated and confused and being in a crossroad with any man. That's why, If he's still dating with other woman, then I also go seeing other man. 

And the most important thing is, if he shows that I'm no important to him then I also show him that he's no important to me. In summary, I make myself less available to him and date other people. I don't say "yes" that easily whenever if he asked me out to hang out. it's not about being play hard to get but I really want to enjoy my life by refusing to waste my time with the man who doesn't deserve me.
We have a life to live, right ladies?
And yeah...
Because I'm too fabulous for them :)